It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don’t recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn’t. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you’re doing this because you know that you aren’t a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself… and while winning the race would be great, right now you’d just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
We call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.”
June 4, 2007 at 9:22 am
ooohhhhh gr8 simi….u r just completed quarter of the life..but understood every body’s lifetruth…..>Nagendra
June 5, 2007 at 6:02 pm
hey prasad….hmm well..I think I showed a lot of truth [:)]
June 6, 2007 at 12:43 am
aah,am well past quarte life now … budha ho chala hun
June 7, 2007 at 2:08 pm
True! Umm…well, I can’t relate to few lines in this…. I would’ve like to be able to though
June 8, 2007 at 4:53 am
Rams !!!! wht r those lines…
June 11, 2007 at 6:38 am
Hey Simi, A post after a long time..kya hua?
A good one. Hope to see more soon.
June 11, 2007 at 6:52 am
Forgot to add : Stories
June 15, 2007 at 6:28 am
Priti, thanx to chk in…will try2 come up with a story soon
June 15, 2007 at 6:28 am
Appu……wht happned…. [:)] ..abhi still a lot is left [:)]
June 17, 2007 at 12:28 pm
Simi, this is article is just great.
June 20, 2007 at 4:54 pm
Hey Simi, Many Many Happy Returns of the Day!!!
February 15, 2008 at 10:42 am
Priti thnx………………
April 24, 2009 at 10:58 am
After reading this article, I just feel that I need more information on the topic. Can you share some resources ?